Charter
Meet someone who is known by their church, holds the faith you hold and hopes to marry, as you do.
An online meeting place for singles in Reformed Baptist Network and FIRE churches. Every member is affirmed by their own elders.
Tell me when it opens
Known by their church. Not a background check.
Faithful singles. Scattered churches.
Marrying in the faith is hard when your church is small and like-minded singles are hours away. Isaac's Well is not like the dating apps. It is a quiet meeting place where every member is known by their own church. Your elders answer one question, and never see your profile or messages.
Our standard
What every member promises.
Every member agrees to a short code of conduct when they join. Some of it is the plain command of Scripture. Some is wise practice for this meeting place. Here are five of its promises.
- 1Be truthful about your age, your church, any past marriage and any children.
- 2Write nothing you would be ashamed to say to their face.
- 3Meet first in a public place, and let someone know where you are.
- 4Accept a no. It is a complete answer, and needs no reason.
- 5Never ask anyone for money, gifts or financial details.
Hannah, 29 · a sample
Affirmed by her elders
Renewed each year
Affirmed by her elders as a member in good standing, free to marry. This is not a guarantee of character or safety, and no background check was made.
From her elders, shown at her choice“Hannah teaches the four-year-olds and keeps our hospitality list. We gladly commend our sister to you.”
How it works
From your church to an introduction.
You ask to join and choose your church. Your elders affirm you. You see a few members at a time, as many as there are. When two people are both interested, we introduce them.
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Joinisaacswell.co/joinSentAnnaSample Reformed Baptist Church- Name
- Born
- Church
- Married before?
- Photo
- Prompts
Your applicationDay 3
- 1You appliedNov 2Done
- 2Your elders were askedNov 2Done · one email
- 3They affirm youWaitingNobody can see your profile yet
- 4Your profile is seenAfter they affirmBy affirmed members only
While you waitWrite your three promptsYour part · 10 min
Join, and choose your church
Give your name, date of birth and a few honest answers, add a photo and choose your church. Only your first name is ever shown. You write your profile while you wait.
Anna, 27 · a sampleNot a real memberI wrote my profile while I waited. No one could see it until my elders said yes.
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AffirmedPastor, can you affirm Anna?
- A member in good standing
- At least 18
- Legally unmarried
- Free to marry
Her counselor: her fatherConfirm
Affirm AnnaI can't affirm herI don't know her well enoughEach year we'll ask you to renew.
Your elders affirm you, in a minute
Your church's affirming elder sees your application and answers one question: are you at least 18, legally unmarried, in good standing and free to marry? He confirms any counselor you name. He never sees your profile, your messages or whom you are interested in.
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This weekHannah, 29
Tennessee · 1689 · RBNet
Affirmed by her elders. Not a background check.
A few at a time, and interest kept private
A short list, with a clear end. When there is no one new, we say so. Say you are interested, privately. They learn it only if they are interested too.
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IntroducedAn introduction · sample
Hannah is interested too.
Take your time.
- No phone numbers
- No emails
- Write here first
An introduction, then meet with care
When you are both interested, we introduce you here, without phone numbers or emails, and the man writes first. A short note comes with the first message and before a first meeting: meet in public, tell someone, never send money. Either of you may close kindly at any time.
Daniel, 33 · a sampleNot a real memberI wrote first once I knew she was interested too. That took the fear out of it.
For pastors, parents and the churches that take part
Pastors affirm and renew once a year. Parents and counselors stand alongside, only if asked.
For pastors For parents For singlesYour profile, close up
What others see, and never see.
Only signed-in, affirmed members see your profile, never the public or search engines. They see your first name, age, region, your church's confession and network, your words and photographs, and whether you have named a counselor. Never your last name, your town, your email or phone, or whom you are interested in. You can hide your profile from your own church.
Tell me when it opensHannah, 29 · sample
Affirmed by her elders
As a member in good standing, free to marry. Not a guarantee of character or safety. No background check was made.
A book that shaped me
Knowing God, in my second year of nursing school. I read it twice.
A good Lord's Day
Morning worship, a long lunch with whoever is new, a walk, evening service.
What I hope for in a marriage
A home that is open, a husband who leads gently, and plenty of guests.
Counselor named: her father
I'm interestedNot now
Hannah learns this only if she is interested too. Her counselor is then told your first name, church and profile summary.
Never shown
- Your last name
- Your town
- Your email and phone
- Whom you are interested in
- Who is interested in you, until it is mutual
- Where a photograph was taken
Your elders
Your elders see your application: your name, email, church, whether you have been married and have children, and any counselor you name. They confirm you are at least 18 without seeing your date of birth.
One question: are you a member in good standing, legally unmarried and free to marry?
They never see your profile, your messages or whom you are interested in.
They are told more only if your account is paused or closed for misconduct after both sides are heard, if a possible serious crime is reported to the authorities, or if you report harm and ask that they be told.
Counselors
Only if you name one: a father, a guardian or someone you trust. Your elders confirm their name.
They are told of each mutual interest and copied on each introduction: the other member's first name, church and profile summary. Never your messages.
And the other way: if someone you are introduced to has named a counselor, that counselor learns your first name, church and profile summary. Every profile shows whether a counselor is named.
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Private until mutual
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Location stripped
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No contact details
$10 or less, once. Your pastor can waive it.1
That is the proposed fee. If your elders don't affirm you, you pay nothing. Gifts are meant to cover every waiver, so no one is kept out by money.2
Free renewal, no tiers, nothing sold.
The founding papers
Who it's for
Start where you are.
- Singles Meet others who hope to marry, with your privacy kept. For singles
- Pastors and elders Affirm your own members, renew once a year, and tell us if that changes. For pastors
- Parents and families Alongside your son or daughter, only if they ask you. For parents
- Churches Your elders name one to affirm. We confirm him with a call. How churches join
For Reformed Baptist Network and FIRE churches. Affirmation is not a background check.
Trust
On the Christian apps, anyone can call himself a Christian. Fakes, scammers, even married men. I want to know that someone's church can vouch for them.
What single women write
Paraphrased from many posts
Privacy
What I dread is people at church knowing I was looking, and the whispers if it didn't work out.
What singles write
Paraphrased from many posts
Courage
Asking a woman at church is public. If she says no, everyone knows by Sunday, and I still see her every week. If I knew she was interested too, I would ask.
What single men write
Paraphrased from many posts
Questions
What people ask first.
These answers follow the proposed founding papers. The board may still change details before Isaac's Well opens.
Is it open yet?
Not yet. The directors are preparing it now, shaped by what singles and pastors tell us in the 2026 surveys. Leave your email and we will write once, when it opens.
What does it cost?
A one-time joining fee, proposed at $10 or less. Renewal each year is free. Your pastor can waive the fee. If your elders do not affirm you, your fee is refunded, and we do not ask why. No tiers, and no paying to be seen.
Will my pastor see what I do there?
No. Your elders see your application and answer one question. They never see your profile, your messages or whom you are interested in. They hear more only if your account is paused or closed for misconduct after both sides are heard, a possible crime is reported to the authorities, or you report harm and ask. Charter 9.7 to 9.9.
Will people at my church know?
Your elders know you applied, because they affirm you. Others at your church see your profile only if they have joined and you have not hidden it from them. You can hide it from your own church, or from anyone you name.
Does “affirmed” mean someone was checked?
It means their elders know them as a member in good standing who is free to marry. It is not a guarantee of character or safety, and we run no background checks. So take your time, meet in public and seek counsel.
Who can join?
Unmarried adults, 18 or over, who seek marriage between one man and one woman and are members in good standing of a Reformed Baptist Network or FIRE church. If your church isn't listed, your elders may apply.
Who runs it?
An independent nonprofit, being formed in Tennessee, run by three directors: an ordained elder who chairs it, a woman director and a project lead. It will have an advisory board, mostly pastors. It is supported by pastors of the Reformed Baptist Network.
Whom do the directors answer to?
Each is commended in writing by their own elders every year, and leaves office if that lapses. Each year the churches receive a summary of the money, including what each director is paid. The papers are public.
I'm divorced, or widowed. Can I join?
Yes, if your elders judge you free to marry. That is their judgment, and we don't revisit it. Before any introduction, both people are told whether the other has been married and has children.
Can my parents be part of it?
Only if you ask. You may name a father, guardian or another counselor, whom your elders confirm. They are told of each mutual interest and copied on each introduction. They never see your messages. For parents.
What if someone troubles me?
Report it from any message or profile, and contact is blocked at once. The woman director, or the woman who stands in for her, reads first any report made by a woman. We plan to read every report within two days. In danger, call 911.
Why “Isaac's Well”?
From Genesis 24. Abraham's servant prayed at a well, and Rebekah came. We take it as a picture of a means, not a promise. God alone gives a husband or a wife.
From the founders
At evening, by the well.
Isaac's Well is a means, not a promise. We will pray for it, work hard at it and leave the outcome with God.
Tell me when it opens
Dear friends,
Many of you are faithful members of small churches, hours from the next like-minded congregation. You have prayed for a husband or a wife. Some of you have tried the apps and left them. We are preparing Isaac's Well for you.
We want it small, honest and kind. Every member affirmed by their own elders. Your privacy kept. Your pastor's part small and clear. Your family alongside, if you ask. A modest fee, once, and nothing sold. We plan gatherings in person too, because marriages are built face to face.
Abraham's servant prayed at the well before Rebekah came: “O LORD, God of my master Abraham, please grant me success today” (Genesis 24:12). We pray the same. If you leave without marrying, you have not failed. Singleness is no lesser state.
With warm regards,The directors of Isaac's Well
Read the charter