One answer
You confirm, as far as you know, that the member is at least 18, legally unmarried, in good standing and free to marry. You may add a short commendation.
For pastors and elders
One page, one answer, once a year.
When one of your members asks to join, you get one email and one page: their application, and one question. You will never be asked to supervise them, or to pair people up.
Not open yet. Your counsel shapes it now.
Your part
Your singles hope to marry in the faith, but your church has few of them, and the next like-minded church may be hours away.
You confirm what you already know.
Renew once a year
Each year we email you to renew. If a member is no longer in good standing, withdraw your affirmation at any time and tell us promptly. No reason is asked.
Your care goes on
Isaac’s Well is only a meeting place. Your counsel, care and prayer for your members go on as before, and nothing here steps between you.
Your page
Built for a busy pastor.
No account and no password. A link in an email opens your own members’ applications and nothing else. Opening it changes nothing. Only your answer does.
- See only your own members’ applications
- Affirm, or say you can’t, with no reason
- Waive the fee with a word
- Renew once a year, by email
Why so little?
Your church already knows them.
Of Apollos: “the brothers encouraged him and wrote to the disciples to welcome him” (Acts 18:27). You know your members; we ask you only to say so. Your oversight is not lessened. It simply does not run through us.
See what your members see.
Open the app as a member would: a few people at a time, interest kept private, and a safety note before the first message and the first meeting.
See the appQuestions
What pastors ask first.
What exactly am I affirming?
That, as far as you know, they are at least 18, legally unmarried, in good standing and free to marry. If you don’t know them well enough, say so.
What if I can’t affirm someone?
Then their profile is never shown, and their fee is refunded, and we do not ask why. You speak with your member as you judge best.
Could affirming make me or my church responsible?
Your affirmation is pastoral care in good faith. You and your church are not parties to the members’ terms and guarantee no one. A lawyer will review this before we open.
Will I be told if something goes wrong?
Only if their account is paused or closed for misconduct after both sides are heard, if a possible serious crime is reported to the authorities, or if they report harm and ask. Charter 9.7 to 9.9.
How does our church take part?
Your elders name one elder to affirm, who promises to keep confidences. We confirm him ourselves, from your church’s public listing and a call to its published number.
Not open yet. Your counsel shapes it now.